No need to save, rescue or fix me! 

Stefanie Miller 

Your miracle will occur-but most assuredly NOT in the way you have outlined or planned! While you are waiting, you might as well let go of your pictures of how it will take place. Be flexible in your receiving, because God always shows up in God's way, God's time and on God's terms! But God ALWAYS comes through! ~Greg Barrette
I have been doing a lot of soul searching in recent months. I know from my childhood and upbringing I have the need to control things. I never felt safe or confident of how things would turn out. I tried through my entire life to force my will to make people love, like, want, appreciate and notice me. Now that I realize that this is tied to my self esteem I can let go. People will either get me or they won't. All I need is to be myself and let things flow. I cannot doubt, judge, or control things the way I used to. The new energy will not permit it. It only exhausts, depletes and frustrates me. So I have learned to let go.

I also have the tendency to want to save, fix and rescue friends, family, clients, romantic partners for the above stated reasons. I can see their situation and have such clarity and insight that I think, if I can get them to see my perspective than I can make it all better for them! I can be so busy trying to help someone else with their issues that I don't have time to really look at myself! That takes the spotlight off of me for a while; therefore, I don't need to focus on myself. When someone ultimately didn't do things the way I recommended, I would be frustrated and disappointed. I needed to learn to trust. Everyone is on their own path and they know what they need. They know what their lessons are, what they need to experience what they need to feel. It's not for me to fix, save or rescue. I can only hold the energetic space, with love, and trust that they are being guided for their ultimate highest good and I can love unconditionally, from the sidelines as a cheerleader and fan. If someone asks for my guidance, wisdom or advice I offer it BUT only IF they ask me for it. I do not overstep my boundaries.

I will also admit in the past I would allow people to fix, rescue and save me. I could be so helpless and needy that I would seemingly need a friend, a family member, a romantic partner to jump in and give me the advice that I didn't trust my own inner guidance to provide. I needed someone to make things better for me. I didn't necessarily believe that I was in the Divine Flow of God/Goddess and that my needs were provided for.

I'm not saying that I don't get fearful sometimes. I'm not saying I don't have the tendency to want to jump in and help someone. I'm a light worker and it is my nature to want to help. I am also working really hard at having boundaries with others and being mindful to stay in my own energetic space and not allowing others to control or manipulate me or for me to do the same to others.

We are not perfect. We don't have to do it right every time. We just need to be mindful and aware. It is the first and most important step to changing an ingrained pattern. Once we realize what we are doing and what is being done to us we have the power to change it. That is when the real miracles can occur!!!

Prayer - Boundaries

Dear God/Goddess, Thank you for the clarity you have given me. I appreciate you guiding me on this path to inner and outer awareness. I am very grateful and blessed by your presence.

I know that I want to make a difference in the world. I want to help the people I care about. I want to assist humanity. Please show me how. Guide me in being a blessing to all that I come in contact with. I want to love without being a rescuer. I trust we are all on our path and that you are guiding us on our journey.

I want to open myself to people in my life but I ask for protection. I have the tendency to allow others to influence me and it doesn't always feel good. I want to be in constant connection with you and my higher self so that I will not be angered, influenced or manipulated by well meaning people in my life trying to rescue and fix me.

I am open to receiving the love and guidance from you dear One. I allow your influence to guide me to the greatest vision and the grandest version of my life. I wish the same for all those I care about.

And so it is.

Amen.
 

Posted By A Magical World  on Jun 26th, 2008