Emotional Intelligence 

Diana Hainsworth, ERF 

Emotional Intelligence

Most people if questioned whether or not they are emotionally intelligent, would probably puff up a bit and convey that their right on top of that one. The truth is that, not many of us have been taught emotional intelligence.

First let me discribe what it is...Emotional intelligence is the capacity to feel the wide array of all emotions, and understand the unique contribution that each can offer the experience of life. Emotions are our litterally our first line of discernment, allowing us the opportunity to choose one thing or experience over another. Emotions come from one source only, this may seem surprising to you but they are a by product of decision! I wish I could leave it just at that, in its purity of simple explaination. However, because we are all multitaskers, we can be caught making multiple decisions at any given time, in fact even the youngest amongst us make decisions continuously, we can even make exact opposite decisions choosing in favor of both, although this tends to create the emotion of confusion. We are truly complex beings and I will dare to say that Emotional Intelligence has been largely ignored, not because it doesn't exist, but because it seems too hard to understand. For me it is the last unexplored frontier of the human being.

Not discounting the countless hours, years, even decades that have gone into the study of human pschology, which can help us get a small grasp on how we function. What I would like to focus my attention on is the fact that we the mainstream, normal people know so little about an area that daily affects us. In fact we do about everything we can to not understand ourselves in this area. Because of the wide use of stimulants and stresses of all kinds that we continuely over tax our normal bodily functions, it just so happens that our emotional well being is also altered.

We have come to believe that dealing with our emotions includes stuffing, shoving, pushing, hiding, cheating, squelching, choking, over producing, disassociating, disconnecting, denying them or we might even feel inclined to place absolutely no boundaries what so ever on any or all of our emotions. By the time we reach our adolecense we have already started getting good at one or more of these games. Emotions like the law of gravity, I am certain have an elemental capacity and purpose.

The movie the Secret when it came out a couple of years back, opened a door in this field of study that I believe had previously been largely ignored. This amazing work introduced the power of positive thinking who's surface has only just been scratched on the last 40 years.

Here is the way I see it, positive thought when combined with the choice to agree with the thought, creates nothing other than positive emotion, this emotion is then converted into a driving fuel that launches that thought into positive action, some of this action most often includes getting quiet or still. If the obstacles that always accompany the action are recognised as a chance to learn (which I believe are needed resistence) then wha-la, the positive physical reality is formed.

Any questions? I hope so!

A New Years Toast to Emotional Intelligence!

Diana Hainsworth



 

Posted By Emotion Works Company  on Jan 8th, 2009