What is the point of Bi-Polar? 

Diana Hainsworth 

I have been given permission by my husband to share his Bi-Polar story. D and I have been married over 20 years, about 3 years ago D was diagnosed with Bi-Polar. We had for many years both wondered and worried about his behavioral problems and my physical health problems, me more than him, so I am sure I added to his extreme reactions to life by my own reactions.

Little did we know all those years what we were dealing with, which seems to be the case with every Bi-Polar that I have had the opportunity to talk to.

To get to the point of Bi-Polar, after 4 years of watching me go through my healing Processes, and with a little help from the law of gravity, my husband came to what I call, "the clock is wound too tight" stage. This is where one hits a wall and hits it hard. It is also when he started to realize that maybe he has a challenge that he can't run away from anymore. So about 4 month's ago he decided to allow me to personally work with him through Processing, (see my website: www.emotionworkscompany.com) not an easy thing for either of us, for all of you out there that are married to the Psychologist of the family whether professional or not, I'd bet you would side with his extreme adversion to this proposition!

Well, this is what has taken place, as I helped D trace the actual Bi-Polar to one of the core decisions, what we found was some interesting information. We had already known that D's mom, died when he was 18 month's old. What he didn't remember is that because of the loss of his mother, on a particular day shortly after her death, little 18 mo. old D decided that it was all his fault, he had killed his mother!

Unbelievable to we thinking adults out here in current life! How could he possibly come to that conclusion? It doesn't make any sense! Nevertheless, D buried that decision deep in his heart and was unable to let go of it.... that is until he turned 47 years old! Once D was taught the "Let go of old decions" method, he did it!

This was the first of a handful of Processes to follow, I am really proud of my husband for daring to try this method, via me. It is clear that he made a good choice as D is more stable today then he was when I met him 23 years ago, back then I just thought it was the enthusiam of youth.

D is still working through a few angles of the Bi-Polar through Processing, and finally getting to the point of it, what I have watched is a man who was out of control, take control of his life, he is doing this free of medications, drugs or any other debilitating habit!

I am grateful for this as I really have never wanted to end up as another divorce statistic, we were certainly headed there, many times. As he and I continue to work on our CORE FOUNDATIONS OF BELIEF our lives are much, much better than they used to be. Who is it that said there is no cure for Bi-Polar anyway? I'm glad we didn't listen to them!

Thanks, D!
Love forever, Diana 

Posted By Emotion Works Company  on Jan 21st, 2009